Happy Dad's Day!

 

Now, you all must be wondering why I wished "Happy Dads' Day" instead of "Happy Father's Day", well the reason is the quote above, "Any Man can be a father but it takes a special man to be a DAD". We all appreciate our mothers for the amazing things they do but the most under-appreciated member of our household is probably, our dad. It is not that they are under-appreciated, but rather the lack of realisation we have towards them. They are always present but we always focus on their absence, they have a secret way of showing their love, yet we focus on the criticisms they give us.

While our mothers stand next to us in our fight, our dad is the shield to protect us from the harm. They are the ones who teach us to dream big and work for it. We always fail to appreciate our fathers, while we all can say all the emotional things to our mother, we fail to express it properly with our dad. Yes, our dad yells at us, but have we ever seen the regret they feel after that. We don't always easily share what we feel to our dad, but in spite of that when we yell at them, we say so many things we never meant. 

If we can express so many things in anger, why can we not say the things we love about them. If we can ignore them after every fight, why can't we sit and have a talk with them. If we can walk away from them after a fight, why can't we walk towards them for a hug? Aren't they our dad after all? Were they not the ones who bought you an ice-cream, everytime your mother said no? Weren't they the ones who bought you all your favorite toys as a kid? Weren't they the ones who supported you for outside food when mom made lauki ki sabzi? Were they not the ones who took you on a late night drive when you needed fresh air at once?

A dad is different from a father, you know why? because this person is there to fight for you and fight with you. They put everything in line just to see you happy. They sit with you to talk about your career, not to impose it on you but to show you a sense of direction in life. Our dads are complicated, they don't express themselves, so as a child, it is us who have to talk to them, to share things with them, to say "I love you" every once and then. They cannot easily do it, so we must do it in whatever way possible with them. They see us, they appreciate us, they love us, if we look into their eyes, we will see that they have so many things to say to us, but never find enough words to say. They teach us how to love, how to respect, how to present, how to stand up, just that we never understand them.

As a daughter, we are not only dad's little princess, but actually, we are the warriors. They motivate us, they may not have one-to-one cry sessions with us but they give us the pep talk to move further. Sometimes, we don't share things with our mother because they may get sad with us, we say it to our dad, you know why? Not because they will not be sad, but because they give a push of confidence. Our dads' can easily hide what they feel, but if we try, they will let it out.

So how about this fathers day, you say an I love you to them, do you think they will not say it back? Their nagging teaches us discipline, their presence teaches us confidence, their words give us wisdom, and their unshown way of showing love gives us happiness. They show us love by getting us our favorite toys, by cracking lame jokes and singing the most obnoxious songs (at least in my experience). They are the partners in crime, and they are the reason we feel safe in the world.

So on behalf of all the children to our amazing dads, thanks for ensuring our happiness, you don't say the words but we know you love us more than ever. We know you don't know to show it enough, but we see your small acts to show us the love. Thank you for being our backbone, when we could not trust ourselves enough. Thank you for not always complimenting, but keeping us grounded but also praising us behind our back. Thank you for showing up every time. Thank you for running at the last minute, when we forgot we had to give our project work the next day. Thank you for being the special man to create a standard of expectation for what I deserve. Thank you for being a dad and not a father. Sorry for not appreciating you enough but I love you.