Mother: THE BEST JOB

The other day, a friend sent me a reel in which the person said, "The world has become such a place that, one can say, I wanna be a lawyer, a doctor, an architect, but not 'I want to be a great mother' when of all the jobs it is one of the toughest." This statement has become known as a feminist statement. A person not wanting to be a mother and have a family is, a feminist, while the true reason to have the whole movement was that, every woman irrespective of what she chooses to be in life, should be recognized as an equal member of the society. It is about giving the same opportunity and recognition. Amidst all that, somehow it has become about being aggressively competitive with men, trying to fight all, being greater than men, and not being able to say that I want to be the best mother. When all it was ever about, was equal space irrespective of gender.

A woman who says "I want to be the best mother", is conceived to be weak or fragile, when actually she is probably one of the toughest people in this world. It is hard to be a mother, not that I know of it myself, but I have seen it. Dealing with a million tantrums that your child throws at you, getting disrespected by that person for whom you gave up everything; forgetting themselves to help their child to find their personality; while helping them support their dreams, forgetting that they once had some of their own dreams. 

She gives up on everything she ever had, just to provide for her child. Despite that, she is still expected to do everything without getting a break for herself. While all the most glorified jobs have sick leave, casual leave, and paid leave, a mother just gets no leave, and she never even asks for one. She is expected to be there 24*7.

Not only does she worry about family, but she worries double the amount for her child. When the child goes far away from her, she gets worried sick and keeps calling us a million times, while all we do is get irritated saying, "What is it? Why do you keep calling?", and we would be lying if we said we have never done it. But after all that, she still tries not to take it to her heart. Although once you live far away from her, you understand a lot more, when you are overthinking realising, how it used to be so much easier and feel so much more safer, when you hug her tight and sat with her gossiping about some random person about whom you know nothing, how it felt calmer talking to her without thinking twice. 

A mother is more than just any job, she is a lawyer trying to protect the child, an architect trying to build strong foundations, a doctor through her kadva kadhas and homemade remedies, a therapist when you need to cry or get mad, your publicist talking about you to everyone, and most of all an actor, who tries to put up a strong face, even when everything is trying to get the best of her.

While I am writing all this, I am sure, again in the next fight, I will treat her the wrong way which is never okay but all I can say, on behalf of all the other children to all mothers is that we see you, we realise or will at some point that you have done all this for us, that you have tried to change yourself to understand your child, but all we can say is a simple sorry and promise to be better, which although will NEVER BE ENOUGH, you are one of our role models, more than anyone else, and while everyone in this world expects something in return, you are one of those people who expect our happiness and nothing more.

HAPPY MOTHERS DAY!!!💖(one day is not enough)